I feel bad for most dads and kids when it comes to Mother’s Day. Every person wants to feel important and appreciated. And I’ll be honest, we moms have been conditioned by the marketing gurus to expect to be appreciated on Mother’s Day. I assume most dads have screwed up this day by either forgetting it, ignoring it (“you aren’t MY mom”) or not doing the “right” thing. This leaves mom resentful, dad bewildered, and the kids volunteering to go to bed early. To make it easier for them, Father’s Day should come first so dads have some sort of an idea of what is expected of them.
But, the calendar is already out for this year so I am going to try to help. Kids, show this to dad (if you have one) or take the initiative and do it on your own. Dads, if you already have this one under control then scroll to the bottom for some recipe ideas (but if this was forwarded to you by your wife, you might want to pay attention).
Rule #1: ASK HER WHAT SHE WANTS. Pretty simple, huh? Do it now, not on Mother’s Day morning. HINT: If she says “oh, nothing” she is probably LYING!
Rule #2: MAKE HER FEEL SPECIAL. Whatever that may be for her. Do the cooking or go out to eat, threaten the kids to be on their “company behavior” for the day, give her a thoughtful gift. HINT: Unless she specifically requested a vacuum cleaner or a new frying pan or anything else that involves cooking or cleaning when you asked what she wanted – DON’T DO IT! Something involving more work will not be appreciated.
Rule #3: CLEAN UP THE MESS! If you make a disaster cooking something or spill the water trying to put flowers in a vase or the floor looks like the remnants of a parade after you wrapped a present DON’T LEAVE THE MESS for her to clean up. Trust me, it’ll undo all of your efforts.
That’s about it. Pretty simple, huh? And one last hint – Despite the efforts of those marketing gurus that try to make you buy stuff to make us feel appreciated, most of us really do like the homemade stuff best:
- grab some paper, crayons (or markers), glue and maybe some family photos and make some cards and posters (you too, Dad!).
- prepare at least one meal including clean up (ideas below)
- give her plenty of hugs and kisses and say THANK YOU at least once.
Dads, I am not being sexist here, just offering extra tips to help make things go smoothly. If you have never cooked with your children before, here are my suggestions and my mother’s to help you out.
Cream Cheese Danish
|Little Pigs in the Blanket|
Ox Eye Eggs
Appetizers and Sides
Happy Mother’s Day to all of the wonderful mothers out there that are on call 24/7, 365 days a year to be chef, maid, teacher, peace officer, nurse, photographer/videographer, librarian, research assistant, cheerleader, coach, artist, magician, seamstress, architect, psychic, and even friend. It is a joyful ride, isn’t it?
Until next time, happy eating.